Lessons Learned: A blog about my life

Saturday, February 22, 1986 Richard said his work gave him a gift card to a nice restaurant. It was to thank him for the overtime he has been doing. The only dress I own is the maternity dress I wore while expecting Jared. Even though Jared is 6 months old, I wear the same dress…

Richard and I didn’t celebrate New Year’s. We are just happy when Jared sleeps so that we can sleep too. Friday, January 3, 1986 Beth called to tell me that she and Mom had gone ice-skating and that Mom had fallen on the ice. Mom was going to stay a couple of days in the…

Wednesday, November 27, 1985 I spent all day Monday and Tuesday packing. Richard took Wednesday off work to help me pack the last of our belongings. Thursday, November 28, 1985 It’s Thanksgiving today, but we weren’t able to celebrate it, since we were busy moving all our boxes into the trailer. There is still some…

September 1985 Beth is home from Canada and has gone back to school. Things aren’t better with Mom. Beth can’t understand all the tension between us. I think it’s hard for her to see what’s happening when Mom is constantly telling her things about me that aren’t true. I noticed even people in our ward…

Saturday, August 10, 1985 As far back as I can remember, I looked forward to being a mom. There are no words to describe how grateful I was to have such a perfect, beautiful baby! Jared was such a good baby! He didn’t fuss, and I enjoyed every second with him! Richard and I had…

Richard said that since I wasn’t working, we needed to have more money coming in, especially since we were expecting a baby. Richard got a job working some evenings at 7-11. Even though I was sick, I still made sure to get up with Richard in the mornings, make his lunch, and see him off…

Richard, Mom, Beth, and I went looking for a house together. I must admit it seemed exciting. Especially since Mom was acting so nice towards us. We found a house in West Valley that we liked. It seemed perfect for Richard and me to live upstairs, and we could make the basement into a separate…

Sunday, September 2, 1984 After church, Richard and I dropped by his parents’ unannounced. His mom had set the table. Richard grabbed a cracker from one of the plates. His mom slapped his hands and said it was for the guests who were arriving soon. As we were about to walk out the door, I…

July-September 1984 I still couldn’t get enough hours at the donut shop. Richard told me they were always looking for people to work full-time at ZCMI, where he worked. Richard worked moving boxes in the warehouse. There was a job available in the office, so I applied. A lady showed me around and told me…

Our wedding night had seemed perfectly normal. After being married for two weeks, I thought there had to be something wrong. Whenever we went to bed, Richard never wanted anything to do with me. I even put on a pretty white negligee I had gotten as a wedding present. When I put it on, Richard…