Lessons Learned: A blog about my life

Saturday, August 10, 1985 As far back as I can remember, I looked forward to being a mom. There are no words to describe how grateful I was to have such a perfect, beautiful baby! Jared was such a good baby! He didn’t fuss, and I enjoyed every second with him! Richard and I had…

Richard said that since I wasn’t working, we needed to have more money coming in, especially since we were expecting a baby. Richard got a job working some evenings at 7-11. Even though I was sick, I still made sure to get up with Richard in the mornings, make his lunch, and see him off…

Richard, Mom, Beth, and I went looking for a house together. I must admit it seemed exciting. Especially since Mom was acting so nice towards us. We found a house in West Valley that we liked. It seemed perfect for Richard and me to live upstairs, and we could make the basement into a separate…

Sunday, September 2, 1984 After church, Richard and I dropped by his parents’ unannounced. His mom had set the table. Richard grabbed a cracker from one of the plates. His mom slapped his hands and said it was for the guests who were arriving soon. As we were about to walk out the door, I…

July-September 1984 I still couldn’t get enough hours at the donut shop. Richard told me they were always looking for people to work full-time at ZCMI, where he worked. Richard worked moving boxes in the warehouse. There was a job available in the office, so I applied. A lady showed me around and told me…

Our wedding night had seemed perfectly normal. After being married for two weeks, I thought there had to be something wrong. Whenever we went to bed, Richard never wanted anything to do with me. I even put on a pretty white negligee I had gotten as a wedding present. When I put it on, Richard…

When we arrived at the hotel, we were still dressed in our wedding clothes. As we were heading off to our room, everyone smiled at us and wished us a good night. It was embarrassing, and I wished we had been able to change into something else before we got there. The wedding night was…

As the big day was aprotching Richard kept trying to do more than just kiss. I told him we had to wait till after we were married, because it was important to me that we had a Temple wedding. He said that his sister and brother-in-law had done stuff, and they still got married in…

Sunday, July 10, 1983 Richard took me to Temple Square, where he proposed to me in front of the Christ statue. After I had said yes, Richard tried to talk me out of it. He said, “You don’t want to marry me! You are too good for me; I can be an awful person!” I…

Sunday, May 8, 1983 Mom, Beth, Mom’s sister Jytte, and her husband Mike came to the airport to pick me up. To my relief, Mom never said one word about me taking off to Hawaii. Instead, everyone seemed happy to see me and wanted to know all about my trip. After Aunt Jytte and Mike…